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Here’s the scenario:
You are out and about, doing the chores that you normally do, so you are by
yourself, grocery shopping, taking the dog for a walk, picking up your dry
cleaning, etc, when you are approached by a stranger that begins some type
of small talk (chit chat) with you. Or maybe you started the conversation;
after all, they seemed appealing enough after a quick once-over. You quickly
find this person has an interesting point of view and maybe a good sense of
humor but you need to know more about them before you move to the next stage
of trading email addresses (we don’t recommend trading phone numbers unless
you have a service such as
Skype and you may not want to have our “dateme” email address at
your disposal to give, or better yet, maybe you do). So here we present to
you a list of questions that will help you to learn more about this person,
quickly. After you’ve looked for a wedding ring, of course.
1. Have you lived around here long?
2. Have you used this service/shopped here long?
These first two questions will help you gain some insight about how long the
person has been in your neighborhood and let you know if they move around or
are a stable owner/renter. It’s also safe to ask their opinion about small
restaurants or coffee shops to further add to the fact that they are from
your area/location.
3. There seems to be a lot of kids (or not very many kids) in the
neighborhood, don’t you think?
4. Do you know “so-and-so”?
The third question will help you find out if they have kids and whether they
go to school in the area, maybe even leading to facts about child custody
and if they are a full-time or part-time single parent. The fourth question
will help you find out another area of commonality, maybe you have some
friends/neighbors in common of you/they work with someone you both know.
5. Have you noticed the traffic getting worse on (name of street)?
6. Do you work around here?
These questions will help you to gain insight as to whether they own a car,
the person’s type of job/career, if they travel far to work, as well as
re-enforcing the fact that they are from around your neighborhood. These
questions can also direct the conversation to the fact that they are in the
process of looking for a new job or about to get a raise/promotion, if they
feel comfortable enough to continue this line of conversation with you.
7. Ask if they can recommend another service for shopping/laundry in place
of where you are now.
8. Ask if they’ve ever tried a different business/service instead of where
you are now.
This will help to keep them talking about their experiences in the chores of
life, be it shopping, laundry or even walking the dog. Maybe they, or you,
have a suggestion about the freshness of grocery items, the quickness of
clothes driers, the fastest way to get your dog to poop on a cold winter’s
day.
Covertly, these questions will establish how the person keeps up with their
basic life chores or if they fall behind and end up rushing around when they
have no more clothes to wear, no food to eat, etc. They will help you
establish enough knowledge about this person to decide, quickly, if they are
worth taking the next step with, the coffee date.
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