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Flirting
is the way most people determine whether
or not a member of the opposite sex is
interested in them. Following is a quick
outline on how you should go about the
complex, sometimes fun, sometimes not so
fun, task of flirting. It all beings
with your approach.
The
Approach
One
person approaches the other. They move
into closer physical proximity. This
much is clear: NO approach equals NO
possibility of initiating contact. You
must approach!
Example: A woman sits down next to a man
in a coffee shop, or a man stands near a
woman in a dance club. This is the first
step. Once you approach, you begin
looking for the signs.
The
Signs
The
person who has been approached will
always signal the other’s presence in
some way…a sign. This signal is not like
a train whistle, however, more a subtle
body language which you can learn to
recognize. For example, he or she simply
may look up, move over to make room, nod
slightly, or signal with a glancing eye
contact.
A
display of total obliviousness to the
one who is approaching generally
indicates lack of interest altogether.
Don’t be discouraged. But if the one you
approached shows absolutely no interest,
then it’s time to re-group and try
again. But let’s say the approach works.
You have your positive acknowledgement,
now what? Time to talk
The
Verbal Exchange
The two
people may then engage in a mild verbal
exchange about impersonal, unimportant
matters such as the weather or the scene
around them. The key word here is MILD.
This is
the classic place for the clever “line,”
but cleverness is not required. At this
point, a verbal exchange is not for the
purpose of sharing valuable insights
about life or determining philosophical
compatibility. It is just a vehicle to
further the developing contact.
Examples: Verbal overtures might include
anything from “please pass the pickles”
to “your looking great tonight”, to
“have you seen the waitress?”. Without
some form of verbal response, it is
highly unlikely that the next step will
occur. Let’s say all is going as
planned. Time for body language.
Body
Language
Over a
period of time, a couple that has begun
to talk may also begin to orient
themselves physically to one another, to
turn toward one another until, if all is
goes well, they are fully facing one
another. This is your goal.
This
step can take minutes or hours . . . or
weeks or months . . . to achieve. Yet,
without this physical reorientation
toward one another, not very much can
ever happen, so give up on people who
turn their back toward you for long
periods of time! But if they don’t…
Touching
The
woman or the man (most often the woman)
touches the other in a light, fleeting
way. Examples: A couple might
accidentally brush their hands against
one another while reaching for a drink,
or the woman might pat the man on the
arm in the middle of a shared joke. The
exchange of very subtle, almost glancing
touches may continue for some while, and
if all goes well, can escalate into the
casual affections shown by couples who
are dating. If you’ve reached this
point, then flirting has now become the
beginning of a relationship. The Art of
Flirting should always end with the
beginning of a relationship. Now get out
there and flirt.
The Art
of Flirting is really the Art of making
first contact. You only have one shot at
making a great first impression. By
following some of the guidelines we’ve
established in this article, you should
now be equipped to locate, approach, and
ascertain whether or not your subtle
flirting has opened the doors to a new
and exciting relationship.
By:
Andre Leblanc
Read more
articles on relationship,
sex and more at
http://www.datingsas.com
Andre Leblanc has several
years experience in the
online dating and
relationship field.
Including implementation of
new technology and creation
of websites. Currently he is
working on datingsas.com
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